These past few weeks have been ups and downs. This is normal for me because of holidays and less sun with the shorter days( Yes, even in San Diego).
Holidays are known for cheer and joy, it is rarely public how often holidays can cause other emotions like sadness or grief. Holidays are also known for celebrating, drinking and eating seasonal goodies. For me all this needs to be done in moderation but it’s hard and sometimes we get carried away. And I forget to nourish my body, mind and spirt because of how busy times get with friends and family.
On the days that I just wanna stay in bed, just wanna binge watch tv or have these constant thoughts of negative self talk- are the days that I need the most self care and even though those days are the hardest to practice it there are the days I need it most because all I wanna do is retreat and hide and stay in bed.
Here are 5 Easy Ways to Practice Self Care When You Need it the Most During the Holiday Season:
1) Check in. Notice. Bring awareness to what is going on in your mind, to your body and with your spirit. Ask yourself are all three in harmony? Is there something I could be doing more of? More movement for my body? Or better nutrition? Is my mind calm? Or is it loud and full of negative self talk? Am I finding my spiritual connection through rituals like prayer and meditation? Do I need more or less of these things?
2) Think about how much Energy you have to Practice Self Care. The way I like to think about it is there are acts of self care that take more or less energy. On days that I do not want to practice self care I choose the activities that take less energy/ effort. These include meditating with my Young Living essential oils (or just wearing them with intention really some of my favorite are stress away, lavender and lemon), cuddling with my pup, taking a bath with Young Living essential oils (lavender and stress a way) and epsom salt, taking a nap, talking to a friend or loved one, or practicing gentle yoga. On days that I am energized I go for a run, I meet up with friends in person, I cook or bake something new that I haven’t tried before.
3) Set Healthy Boundaries with People. Honor and be gentle with yourself. Be mindful of where your energy is going and what you are doing this Holiday Season. I often find myself dedicating too much time to socializing and social events and not enough time to myself for recharging and self care. I know how hard it is to say “No” this time of year or for me most of the year really. Especially with things like FOMO (fear of missing out) hah that feeling is all too real especially with social media these days.
If saying “no” doesn’t feel right to you as it does not always for me. I consider going for part of the time instead of the whole time. That way I can still take some time before or after to practice self care and not feel rushed (feeling rushed is a big thing for me, and I like to give myself lots of time in between things to slow down).
Also, going to those events might be a form of self care! If you find those events re-energizing and in good company keep doing that and going. Just like the first tip of checking in, do that and do it constantly. 🙂
4)Make a Plan of Action. After checking in pick one, two or three small acts of self care you want to practice. The way I like to think about it is there are acts of self care that take more or less energy. On days that I do not want to practice self care I choose the activities that take less energy/ effort. These include meditating with essential oils, cuddling with my pup, taking a nap, talking to a friend or loved one.
5) Practice it. Do something for yourself now that your future self will thank you for. Even if it is 2 minutes of meditation or 10 deep breathes. Do it. Even though you are fighting it. Do it. Even if it is just cuddling with your pet or a loved one. It counts. These little things will add up. When I keep doing things that make me happy even though at the moment I am struggling, I am changing and shifting my energy.
Hope you find this helpful during the Holiday Season, or year round really. I know that I need constant reminders for myself to even check in and be mindful about how my mind, body, and spirit are doing.
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