5 Easy Ways to Practice Self Care When You Need it the Most During the Holiday Season

These past few weeks have been ups and downs. This is normal for me because of holidays and less sun with the shorter days( Yes, even in San Diego).

The days that are hardest to practice self care are likely to be the days you need it most.Holidays are known for cheer and joy, it is rarely public how often holidays can cause other emotions like sadness or grief. Holidays are also known for celebrating, drinking and eating seasonal goodies. For me all this needs to be done in moderation but it’s hard and sometimes we get carried away. And I forget to nourish my body, mind and spirt because of how busy times get with friends and family.

On the days that I just wanna stay in bed, just wanna binge watch tv or have these constant thoughts of negative self talk- are the days that I need the most self care and even though those days are the hardest to practice it there are the days I need it most because all I wanna do is retreat and hide and stay in bed.

Here are 5 Easy Ways to Practice Self Care When You Need it the Most During the Holiday Season:

1) Check in. Notice. Bring awareness to what is going on in your mind, to your body and with your spirit. Ask yourself are all three in harmony? Is there something I could be doing more of? More movement for my body? Or better nutrition? Is my mind calm? Or is it loud and full of negative self talk? Am I finding my spiritual connection through rituals like prayer and meditation? Do I need more or less of these things?

2) Think about how much Energy you have to Practice Self Care. The way I like to think about it is there are acts of self care that take more or less energy. On days that I do not want to practice self care I choose the activities that take less energy/ effort. These include meditating with my Young Living essential oils (or just wearing them with intention really some of my favorite are stress away, lavender and lemon), cuddling with my pup, taking a bath with Young Living essential oils (lavender and stress a way) and epsom salt, taking a nap, talking to a friend or loved one, or practicing gentle yoga. On days that I am energized I go for a run, I meet up with friends in person, I cook or bake something new that I haven’t tried before.

3) Set Healthy Boundaries with People. Honor and be gentle with yourself. Be mindful of where your energy is going and what you are doing this Holiday Season. I often find myself dedicating too much time to socializing and social events and not enough time to myself for recharging and self care. I know how hard it is to say “No” this time of year or for me most of the year really. Especially with things like FOMO (fear of missing out) hah that feeling is all too real especially with social media these days.

If saying “no” doesn’t feel right to you as it does not always for me. I consider going for part of the time instead of the whole time. That way I can still take some time before or after to practice self care and not feel rushed (feeling rushed is a big thing for me, and I like to give myself lots of time in between things to slow down).

Also, going to those events might be a form of self care! If you find those events re-energizing and in good company keep doing that and going. Just like the first tip of checking in, do that and do it constantly. 🙂

4)Make a Plan of Action. After checking in pick one, two or three small acts of self care you want to practice. The way I like to think about it is there are acts of self care that take more or less energy. On days that I do not want to practice self care I choose the activities that take less energy/ effort. These include meditating with essential oils, cuddling with my pup, taking a nap, talking to a friend or loved one.

5) Practice it. Do something for yourself now that your future self will thank you for. Even if it is 2 minutes of meditation or 10 deep breathes. Do it. Even though you are fighting it. Do it. Even if it is just cuddling with your pet or a loved one. It counts. These little things will add up. When I keep doing things that make me happy even though at the moment I am struggling, I am changing and shifting my energy.

Hope you find this helpful during the Holiday Season, or year round really. I know that I need constant reminders for myself to even check in and be mindful about how my mind, body, and spirit are doing.

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3 Simple tips for Starting Self Care

Wow. It has been awhile since I have last blogged. So many transitions have happened since then.

I have taken the semester off from grad school in order to focus on myself and my well being. I was extremely stressed and wasn’t taking care of my health. Grad school is no joke and it was very hard for me to balance and juggle working an ABA job, being an entrepreneur, going to grad school, wedding planning and managing everything else. Though it was a hard decision to make, I am so happy I did it. I have learned so much from it including how to honor myself and what I need through self care. I did not want to fall into the glorified state of being “busy.” I wanted to live a full and meaningful life of things that I love doing. I needed to learn how to manage my time.

Another thing that has changed is that in July I became Reiki certified and am now a Reiki practitioner. Learning about energy healing, chakras, essential oils and other holistic modalities has been life changing. I am and will continue to work on my personal and spiritual growth and bettering myself. Of course, these will be on going life lessons.

Self Care isn’t meant to be a one time thing, it is a practice. These are just some suggestions, take what works for you and leave what doesn’t. 🙂 Life isn’t a one size fits all, different things work for different people. If one thing doesn’t work don’t give up, try something different until you find what is right for you.

Self Care Tips:

  1. Find out what you like. What brings you joy? Personally, I love playing with my doggy, that makes me happy and when I am stressed or had a bad day nothing is better than playing with him. It brings me back to the present moment.
  2. Start by adding 2-5 minutes of self care to your daily routine. Something you look forward to (You can slowly start to increase these self care practices in duration and frequency as needed). Is this your morning coffee and breakfast by yourself or with your loved ones? Do you look forward to taking walking breaks at work? Meditating? Stretching? Some days I just need to read a book or watch a show to unwind.
  3. Slow down and listen to your instinct/ intuition/ gut feelings. Take a moment, pause and think about what you need at this moment. Is it water? Is it sleep? Exercise? Do you need someone to talk to? Maybe it is quiet time in nature? A massage? Reiki? Ask yourself, if I engage in this activity/ behavior will my future self thank me?

I am working on building a community where we can share tips and tricks for self care and mindful stress management. If you are interested please join my new Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LearntheEssentialsWithRhonalyn/

I get to call this work: learning about Young Living’s Mineral Make up


Right now as I reflect I am Feeling so blessed! Thank you @dragonflyandspruce and @myjoannamalone for today’s opportunity to learn more about Savvy Minerals by Young Living’s new mineral make up line! So many benefits to moving towards preventative care and removing yucky chemicals from my life style. I am loving this journey I am on with you all towards health, wellness and abundance. 😍❤ I feel so overwhelmed with gratitude to call this work! To love what I do and be able to intertwine what I am learning in order to help myself, my family and friends and to just help people. There is so much synchronicity going on between grad school, aba work and the oily work I am doing.

Digging a little deeper…

The past couple of weeks I have been going through roller coasters of emotions. Even though I KNOW I am on the right path and doing the right things I have been feeling so overwhelmed and at times paralyzed with my anxiety and depression. Between juggling grad school, working my ABA job and working as an entrepreneur with Young Living/ blogging/ and the realm of holistic healing it has been A LOT. The past few days I have been connecting with some special and important people in my life and it has been so healing! During these times of stress I make sure to up my selfcare and taking time to learn about Young Living mineral make up, get my make up done and connect with these ladies has been a form of self care (education so I can remove unhealthy chemicals from my lifestyle) even though it’s “work”. Though it’s hard I know it’s worth it. I love my support system and the folks in my life.

Growing Pains and Synchronicity

Growing Pains and Synchronicity.pngJust when you think you’ve got things figured out life throws you a curve ball. I’ve been in my graduate program since Summer 2015 at Florida Institute of Technology and I thought I had their format down. That is until I recently began their Stage II coursework for my last year of the grad program. YIKES! I thought I prepared for this… by taking steps to decrease my ABA work load by stepping down from a management position to a therapist position and immediately jumping into it part time with a different agency(with hopes of gaining full time 30 hours). I even took a month break, the calm before the storm if you will…. WOW How I was wrong.

This first month has been a huge adjustment! And I know I loved the term growing pains, especially at every transition in my life from graduating high school, starting undergrad, taking a break from undergrad both, going back to undergrad and finishing my B.A, to starting work full time to finding out my passion of ABA and jumping into the grad program to now transitioning to part time ABA works part time Oily work (essential oils) and Full time Grad School. Just academia alone has so many challenges, twists and turns and adjustments to grow into. This isn’t even including relationships with people both platonic and romantically and all my personal hurdles with dealing with grief and loss of loved ones.

Everything is synchronicity. I truly believe that things happen at the right time and moment- of course we have to be proactive to get to those moments and cannot expect to just sit around and have it come. I have been a spiritual seeker and have taken paths that strayed away from my spiritual practices of praying, meditating and other forms of self care like yoga, journaling, jogging and was distracted by filling my time with this and staying busy. But it is back in full force!

Let me tell you that during all of those “growing pains” it was because my “why” changed! Who I am was changing, I will continue to change and transform. Just as the caterpillar evolves to a butterfly each transition in my life goes through major transformations.

Can I just circle back to synchronicity for a bit? Remember I mentioned my Oily work. Well that in it self is full of personal and spiritual growth with finding my “why”. I am so blessed to be surrounded by so many people who inspire me to do scary sh*t, to be vulnerable to do things that will be challenging to help me grow and thus help my oily business grow. To continue to find those inspiring self help podcasts, books, videos as well as surrounding myself around people who lift me up and challenge me to grow and evolve.

I’d like to be vulnerable with you all reading this for a minute, as vulnerable as I was in last nights class/ group supervision meeting. I broke down in tears in front of my colleagues, my mentor/ professor- I admitted that this was harder than I thought it would be (grad school). That my adjusting to things has been bumpy and some days I want to curl up and hide under a rock. This was real. It was my honest truth. It was full raw emotions-most being released through tears and words. They did not laugh at me or bring me down, no in fact my professor took time to really talk about what IS NOT talked about or explained to many people in grad school. He said that “yes, this will be one of the hardest years of your life and you will feel tired and not sleep enough but you will get through it.” He encouraged us to share about where we were and I am so fortunate that he talked about how in these hard times what will really help us is making those connections with people who get it, who understand what I am going through, who have been there before. Again synchronicity. This is so true, that no matter what part of our lives we are in we need a support system. We need people to lean on. We need to be VULNERABLE and ask for help, to say it’s hard but to also be able to get back up again and say BUT I CAN DO THIS! and to see that people HAVE done this and that people ARE doing this. WOW my mind is blown by all of the synchronicity between what I have learned between my oily tribe and now my aba support system.

My classmate even chimed in about the “why” and how we have to remember “why” we are doing this: How this is bigger than us. That we are here to help people. BOOM Synchronicity AGAIN! I am so blessed to be where I am and to be surrounded by so many different circles of people and communities that lift me up. My “why” will continue to change but right now my “why” is to continue growing and learning in order to help people in the best way possible. Between sharing essentail oils, mindfulness tips, life skills tips, and aba – behavior tips. I am here to serve the people while doing what I love and thus supporting myself and my family.

If any of this resonates with you and you’d like to dialogue and talk more I am here! I am around through email and social media platforms. All you have to do is step outside of your comfort zone and reach out like I did.

Thank you all! for reading this post and hearing me out as I process this wonderful journey!


I would like to add before writing this post I took time to wake up early and practice yoga (Yoga with Adriene). I used my oils (Young Living blends Abundance and Awaken- topically and taking 3 deep breaths of it). I am practicing what I want and changing my behaviors to nourish my body, mind and spirit.

How to navigate through the Young Living Virtual Office

Hello everyone! So happy you are interested in getting to know Young Living’s Virtual Office. Here is a video of me explaining how to navigate through your virtual office. Learn how to place an order, how to get on to essential rewards, and how to use pv assist. Please note this video is for members only and will require a password.


Easy Steps to Spring Clean Your Spiritual Self and Environment Series 3: Spirit

YES! Series 3: Spirit! If you haven’t already read Easy Steps to Spring Clean Your Spiritual Self and Environment Series 1: Home please click here & for Series 2: Body please click here.   


  1. See a professional Holistic Practitioner, an Energy Healer, a Reiki Master, get a massage, go to Acupuncturist, a Nutritionist or a Therapist. This not only helps to identify any areas in your life that you may need to focus on to clear out anything but is a great act of self-care. When you take care of your mind, body and spirit, you are able to function at your highest potential. If you need any suggestions on where to find any of the professionals listed above, I know a lot of great ones, so feel free to contact us for a referral.  
  2. Do a release ceremony. A Release Ceremony is where you have identified what you want to change in your life and you have acknowledged you want to let go of what no longer serves you. There are a few ways to do a Release Ceremony. One way is to journal about what you want to let go of and release it by burning it.  Another way is to pray or meditate and Give thanks for any lessons or growth that has been experienced. A Release Ceremony is tailored to a personal preference and there is no wrong way to do one as long as the intention is there to Release.
  3. Treat yourself. Allow yourself to do something nice for yourself. Take time to read a book you’ve been wanting to start. Take an epsom salt bath with Young Living Essential Oil blend Stress Away. Light candles and meditate on what you are grateful for. This is your moment to enjoy, relax and let go.
  4. Build yourself an altar. An altar allows you to have a space to do rituals, pray or meditate. Find items that are sacred to you and that make you feel good. This altar is all yours and needs to hold personal meaning to you.
  5. Music and Sounds. Music has the ability to change the mood of the environment almost instantly. Uplifting music emits a higher frequency which attracts positive people, experiences and stimulates the environment to foster a harmonious vibe. Also, wind chimes are very good to have in and around your home. The windchimes help to break up any stagnate energy.


About Arlene:

Hello Beautiful People! I’m so happy to be here with Rhona sharing tips, techniques and tools to Spring Cleaning your environment and most importantly, yourself!

But first, a little about me.

I am 100% a Southern California girl. I take advantage of the sunshine we have here and I’m outside in nature most days. I love learning and I’m always up for learning anything new. I really enjoy teaching people how to develop themselves spiritually, professionally and personally. I have had a passion for seeing people have healthy and harmonious relationships since I was very young. I can remember helping my friends resolve their conflicts and then one by one, my peers would come to me to seek guidance and resolutions to their conflicts.

I have done tons of research on what techniques are most effective in helping to foster healthy relationships. This will be an ongoing research for me as I have seen no 2 relationships are the same. My goal is to make our world a little more healthier, peaceful and happier because I have felt the suffering and struggles of others. I’ve felt other people’s pain so crystal clear as if it were my own, it triggered me to be the person I am today. I do believe one person has the potential to change the whole world. Just like one domino falling and triggering a chain reaction or one drop in the ocean can ripple out causing a shift in the entire ocean. I still have so much hope for our world and I just know that one person can spark something and change the whole world for the better.

I look forward to helping as many people as I can and hopefully I will get to meet you. If I only help one person, then I hope I have helped to spark that person to ripple out what we need in our world most and that is a fierce and compassionate love for all people. You can contact me at www.essentialslifeliving.com and I’d love to connect with you. Hope you have a blessed day filled with lots of people, places and experiences that make you smile.